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kamakiri
01-05-2009, 12:40 PM
As most regulars here know, I am a fan of ETR. Today's was a great eye opener. The post went on to cover other stuff, but I will quote the beginning here and say again read that daily email. It rocks.

Begin ETR Quote:

When I was first getting into the business of selling educational programs, a famous zero-down real estate guru asked me, "Do you know the thing people who take my courses want most?"
I had a sneaking suspicion I was about to get it wrong, but I gamely answered: "To be successful real estate investors?"
He laughed. "You've got a lot to learn, my friend."
I took the bait. "So what do your customers want?"
"They want to avoid taking action."
I told him I wasn't sure I understood. He was kind enough to clarify. "Most of the people who take my courses and who will be buying your programs want to feel like they are on the road to success. But they don't want that road to end. They like the journey. They fear the destination."
"And why would that be?" I asked.
"To tell you the truth," he said. "I don't know. But I can tell you this. After our real estate students have gotten the knowledge they need to succeed, few of them get out there and get to work. Most of them just buy more programs. If they don't buy them from us, they will buy them from someone else. So we sell them extra programs."
"That's sort of depressing," I said.
"If you give one of my customers - someone who has completed his real estate education and is fully prepared to start investing profitably - a choice between actually getting to work and buying another course to learn more, he will buy the course."
"Are they afraid of failing?"
"Could be that," he said. "Could be they're afraid of success. As I said, I don't know."
Since then I've thought a lot about this failure-to-get-started problem. I've read dozens of books and talked to many of my colleagues and posed the question to hundreds of my customers. The theories as to why people don't take action are many and varied. The three that make most sense to me are:


Lack of Confidence: People who haven't yet been successful in life don't believe they can be, even if they are fully prepared to succeed.



Fear of Pain: Some people see taking action as work and work as a form of pain. These are usually people who have never experienced the pleasure of working on something they value.



Laziness: Besides the fear of work, human beings are programmed to be lazy. Being lazy means trying to get what you want with the least amount of effort. Some people don't take action because they want to find an easier way.

If these are the main reasons why so many people don't take action when they are ready, what is the solution?

EricC
01-07-2009, 06:17 PM
First off, what is ETR? :o

Secondly, I think a lot of folks just hit a wall in the process and either don't know how or don't have the drive to get over it. They believe the answer is in the next motivational book, or internet marketing program. I think this really separates the entrepreneur from the crowd. Most of the successful folks I've read about didn't require that kind of hand holding.

This is something I'm struggling with myself. Breaking free from the information overload and moving forward. As discussed in a previous and recently deleted thread, product creation is one of, if not the biggest, stumbling blocks. I'll quote The late great George Carlin - "I got a lot of good ideas, trouble is, most of them suck"

This is really why Tim's book struck a chord with me. There are several point in it where I has to sit back and say, "damn, I hadn't thought about it that way before". Thats why he enjoys the success he has, his mindset is different than most.

-Eric

jetpacklife
01-07-2009, 08:46 PM
That's a very enlightening post. Looking back, I definitely see that in other people with their businesses, and with myself in other struggles.

Many people starting out have the mentality that you "have to spend money to make money" and will try to buy all sorts of things to get their business going. And, why you may actually need some of the stuff, usually, you can get by on much less. In fact, often your money and time is better spent on just one or two bottlenecks. I think it's a combination of fear of failure and an actual response of not knowing what to do next.

While I'm very successful with my entrepreneurial efforts, I've been very unsuccessful with my romantic and lifestyle design efforts. I see myself having repeated the same pattern of being stuck in the actual implementation, and instead devoting more time and energy toward learning more and making the possible future implementation easier. I've read lots of books on meeting women, and they even say "stop, and do this before continuing" .. of course, I don't. Fear, lack of confidence and the wall.

The fact is, it might actually be real deficiencies in both cases. While the instructor might think the student "is fully prepared to start", they really might not be. I think that some things are oversold as being easy to learn in the first place, while in reality are not achievable for everyone... At the very least, there might be other deficiencies that the instructor is just not seeing.

kamakiri
01-07-2009, 09:40 PM
Eric - ETR is Earlytorise.com (http://www.earlytorise.com/). I edit out the links because every time I paste them someone accuses me of 'affiliate marketing', even though I have no clue about what it is. They send out a daily email that is about half full of infomercial type stuff, and half full of really productive articles, like the one above. The president, Michael Masterson, is one of my favorite authors, and I also highly recomend his books, especially his current one: Changing the Channel (http://www.amazon.com/Changing-Channel-Millions-Business-Agora/dp/0470375027).

Jet - Thanks for the story. I have been married for 9 years, and can't imagine going back to the dating scene. I don't envy you at all. I think you need to move to Japan and start going to kompa parties (http://howtojapan.blogspot.com/2005/11/what-is-group-dating.html). That part about repeated patterns is right on. That is what keeps a lot of authors in business actually. Their readers do not follow what is written, and do not make the leap to a comfortable income, so they buy the next product, or the following book in the series, or go to the next seminar...always looking for a way out without doing what is necessary.

ps did you read Tim's blog post today (http://www.fourhourworkweek.com/blog/2009/01/07/the-power-of-less-leo-babauta-zen-habits/)? Perfect timing.

Sven
01-08-2009, 06:59 AM
Well Jet, with regards to the romantic efforts, you're not alone there ;-) And where you have been successful with the business I would love to get a serious income. However, I am getting the lifestyle thing going! This year I'll be able to go sailing for lets say a week and still be able to keep the business going with working no more than an hour a day answering emails and passing on orders to the fullfilment people.

I guess it all comes down to what you feel comfortable with. The first part of my career I had to physically produce what I was selling. It was a highly skilled craft that needed my attention to get the perfection that customers got to expect from me. I could have someone else do the bulk of the work in my workshop but having staff did not give me relaxation.

I found out that it is probably more important for me to be able to get up, have some coffee and browse the net while crunching ideas for new things to do, then do a bit of "work". By now I know that Crunching ideas is just as much part of my job as making stuff so now I am trying to get in to a state where I have a thing to sell the ideas trough.

Since I launched my first windvane self steering system I am getting to grips with the fact that my ideas may be a bit too radical for most buyers so I have to find a way to limit myself. There is no point in being an inventor without an audience... But I still have to enjoy what I do.

I also found out that having too much freedom does not suit me either. I need a mix of laziness and have to work to function at my best. Outsourcing the packing and handling of the systems is a good step there too.

Quality of life is all in the mix, not in the individual components.

DaveCraige.com
01-08-2009, 07:23 AM
Sven,

You run a fulltime business on just one hour a day?

(would have PM'd but yours is disabled)

jetpacklife
01-08-2009, 08:29 PM
KamaKiri- going to japan for a group date, that's a neat idea, but, certainly a stretch. I do hear a lot of advice with going to other countries in search of love. So far, I've found that if you suck at it here, you're going to suck at it over there too.

DaveCraige- My business, ad based websites, runs easily on an hour a day. I've gone of a few 3 week trips with little effort as well. I've had for a long time the goal of getting to this point, the leasure lifestyle with few real responsiblities and a work at your own pace knowledge based business. However, now that I'm here, I can see how Tim's advice is so important in that I need other things to do, and I now set my sights on another goal.

DaveCraige.com
01-08-2009, 09:08 PM
/\ woa props!

you sound like you might be the first person i've found that can qualify for this thread (http://fourhourworkweek.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?t=2664)