Fear

[MicheleW]

Salutations,

I fear that I am going to enjoy my life entirely too much using the principles in this book. I had a ton of co-workers laugh at me when I purchased this book and make comments about how this is just another flash. I have a friend who has been living sort of 4hww lifestyle. After he took a peek at my copy he purchased one applied the principles immediately and polished up what he had been living. Don't knock a plan because of fear.

adieu,

Michele

:) :)

[badhank]

Glad to hear ur enthusiasm, go out there and get a few things done, get ur friend on the forum, sounds like he/she would b great at helping others along as well

[EditorDude]

Tony Robbins has pointed out that one of the reasons people never take action is fear of their own success and the repercussions it will have on them eg they will be less loved and have less friends etc Usually this is imagined but - just incase, remember, people who hold you back are not your friends - you're better off without them - and so are they! But also people imagine other repercussions of success: whatever they might be - think about what if you don't take action and you don't give yourself that chance of success - now that is truly frightening!!!

[final_id]

I've personally never understood the "fear of success" theory. Maybe I don't have it. It would seem all to self-aggrandizing to say, essentially, "Well, I won't buy a lottery ticket, because then I might win, and then everyone would hate me and I wouldn't know what to do with all my free time." Or, more close to home, "Well, I won't go changing my lifestyle and getting more money for less work, because then I might actually have free time to read a novel, and then everyone would hate me and I wouldn't know how to interact with them any more." That's rather presumptuous, isn't it? I once met a girl who wouldn't go into a gym to work out because she'd seen a picture of a female weight-lifter who had won the Weider competition -- ya know, all striated and freaky and male looking, with huge pecs and biceps and all -- and so my friend said, "I don't want to have to look like her, she's not feminine." Kinda unclear on the concept ... don't flatter yerself, girlie. You'd have to work a lifetime to get to where she's at right now. A LITTLE bit of improvement won't RUIN you.

I think I DO have fear of the 4HWW from the point of view of the conventional and comfort-zone problems. We all are "supposed to" have a job, and get it through traditional means such as distributing resumes, and then perform it by going to an office where other people give us responsibilities and we regularly collect a paycheck. That's the "supposed to" rules about our society. People who don't do those things, can find themselves easily misunderstood. Maybe you won't get a date -- "but he doesn't have a JOB, mom! how can I go out with him?" (never mind that he's independently wealthy thanks to his Muse, he doesn't go to an office every day!); or maybe your parents won't approve, and will find niggling reasons to reject your plans -- "that's not the RIGHT way to do things, who do you think you are?" (never mind that you're making more money doing things the WRONG way, and having more free time to volunteer at their church).

So, for me, there IS fear. But it's certainly not fear of success. Fear of failure, maybe. Fear of not fitting in. (For me, the "best" form of "fitting in" has always been, to succeed to the maximum at exactly the proper and most approved-of path. Being corporate chief. I am unlearning that.) But not fear of getting what I want.

Can someone explain that?

[badhank]

final_id, i know exactly what you mean that u cant understand it. Thats actually great. It a pretty complicated thing tho as Robins teaches, and there more to it than just a fear of success.

It can also affect a successful person that had no "fear" getting there, but suddenly find that all the extra 0's on the end of their bill and checks puts them way out of their comfort range. They subconsciously pull back and/or sabotage themselves... like any disorder theres many forms. Brief explanation just so u get more of an idea.

[final_id]

Wait! That's me! Every time I get an extra zero on my paycheck, I'm WAY out of my comfort zone. :)

[badhank]

Wait! That's me! Every time I get an extra zero on my paycheck, I'm WAY out of my comfort zone. :)

well to most that is perfectly fine, some ppl do get a little freaked out, its much better to get freaked out by too few 0's. I dont know if such a condition exist but i can b a case study for it